Bonding with your baby

Mother-child relationship

The bond between mother and child grows naturally during pregnancy.

Mother and baby spontaneously react to each other’s signals. Each day the mother understands better what the baby needs. For example: why he/she cries or when he/she is hungry.

Breast-feeding helps to strengthen the bond between mother and child. However, mothers who do not breast-feed also naturally bond very easily with their baby.

A woman holding her new-born baby. She is happy.

Father-child relationship

For fathers, it can be more difficult to create such a strong bond. But fathers, too, can strengthen their relationship with their child. They can, for example:

  • Feed the baby breast-milk or powdered baby milk from a bottle;
  • Cuddle the baby;
  • Bathe the baby;
  • Carry the baby around.

These moments of closeness are important to father and child. It also means that the mother can rest from time to time.

A father giving his baby a bath.

Talking

Becoming a parent is a learning process. Talk to your family, friends, other parents and your doctor or midwife. They can help you and give advice. Also talk with your partner about what you both want and need.

Een band met uw baby opbouwen

Moeder-kindrelatie

De band tussen de moeder en haar kind groeit vanzelf tijdens de zwangerschap.

Moeder en baby reageren spontaan op elkaars signalen. Elke dag leert de moeder de baby beter te begrijpen. Bijvoorbeeld waarom hij/zij huilt of wanneer hij/zij honger heeft. 

Borstvoeding geven helpt om de band tussen moeder en kind te versterken. Ook moeders die geen borstvoeding geven, bouwen vanzelf een band met hun baby op. 

Een moeder houdt haar pasgeboren baby tegen zich aan. Ze is blij.

Vader-kindrelatie

Voor vaders kan het moeilijker zijn om een sterke band op te bouwen. Maar ook vaders kunnen de relatie met hun kind versterken. Zij kunnen bijvoorbeeld:

  • De baby moedermelk of melk van poeder met een flesje geven;
  • De baby knuffelen;
  • De baby een bad geven;
  • De baby ronddragen. 

Deze intieme momenten zijn belangrijk voor vader en kind. En de moeder kan ondertussen een beetje rusten.

Een vader geeft zijn baby een badje.

Praten

Ouder van een kind worden is een leerproces. Praat met uw familie, vrienden, andere ouders, uw dokter of vroedvrouw. Zij kunnen u helpen en advies geven. Praat ook met uw partner over wat jullie beiden willen en nodig hebben.  

More information or help needed?

Family doctor
You can talk to a family doctor about almost every intimate issue. If necessary the family doctor can refer you to a specialised health professional. Find a family doctor in your neighbourhood:
Community health centre (wijkgezondheidscentrum)
You can visit a family doctor in a community health centre. Other care professionals such as nurses and social workers also work at community health centres. Care is provided free of charge. Find a community health centre in your neighbourhood:
Midwife
A midwife helps pregnant women before, during and after delivery. Find a midwife in your neighbourhood:
Aquarelle
Prenatal and postnatal care for women who migrated to Belgium
02 535 47 13
De Kraamtuin
Information about a desire to have children, pregnancy, delivery, maternity care, breast-feeding and parenthood.
078 05 52 00
Expertisecentrum Kraamzorg De Bakermat
Information about a desire to have children, pregnancy, delivery, maternity care, breast-feeding and parenthood.
016 20 77 40
Expertisecentrum Kraamzorg De Kraamvogel
Information about a desire to have children, pregnancy, delivery, maternity care, breast-feeding and parenthood.
03 238 11 00
Expertisecentrum Kraamzorg De Wieg
Information about a desire to have children, pregnancy, delivery, maternity care, breast-feeding and parenthood.
0473 45 14 38, 050 33 02 70
Expertisecentrum Kraamzorg Kraamkaravaan
Information about a desire to have children, pregnancy, delivery, maternity care, breast-feeding and parenthood.
09 333 57 60
Expertisecentrum Kraamzorg Volle maan
Information about a desire to have children, pregnancy, delivery, maternity care, breast-feeding and parenthood.
02 229 25 58, 0478 88 11 86
Kind en Gezin
Assistance to (prospective) parents with information, practical tips and medical follow-up until the child is 3 years of age. Services are for free.
078 150 100
ONE
Free social and medical monitoring during pregnancy and monitoring of the child. ONE works throughout French-speaking Belgium. Contact the local ONE branch: